Maybe we think our spouse should be the one to show us some attention, or they should be putting us first. While that is a valid point, we can only control our own actions. So a better approach might be for us to focus on what we can do for our spouse instead of what they are not doing for us.
We need listen to what the Bible tells us about love: It is not self-seeking.
You love your spouse. Put aside yourself and show him.